Recently, I was talking with a young couple who had come to me for pre-marital counseling.  They had beautiful rings, were planning an exorbitant wedding and a luxurious honeymoon. However, something important was missing.  Yes, the wedding and honeymoon planning is important.  However, they are not the most important.  The problem with the couple was that something was blatantly neglected.

They had not given adequate consideration and preparations for the marriage after the wedding.  This is the case so often.  The couple is focused diligently on a beautiful wedding, meaningful in many ways, but forget that the marriage is more important than the wedding ceremony.   The goal is about pursuing what is priceless instead of that which can be purchased. A marriage is very significant and deserves great investment and priority.

Some of the greatest preparation for a marriage is the premarital counseling that needs to address several issues spiritually and relationally.  Some of these issues and topics include the building of unshakeable trust in the marital union.  This is crucial and has implications for a lifetime.  Trust is the relational foundation for marriage.  A wedding can be decked with jewels, but one of the greatest treasures in a marriage is a strong and confident trust level.

Trust components need to be explored with careful examination.  Healthy and positive steps need to be addressed with relational tools given for developing and maintaining strong trust for the whole marriage.  If trust is ambiguous, shaky or broken in the relationship, it causes confusion, hurt and floundering in the marriage until it is restored.  A major factor in marital success is based on proven trust in the relationship.

Integrity, purity, a strong spiritual compass and selflessness all contribute to trust in marriage.  Marriage partners should be able to depend on the choices and responses of their spouse in every situation.  This reliable predictability is based on the heart and character of each spouse.  It gives confidence, hope and commitment to the marriage.

If the trust in your engaged relationship or your marriage needs to be strengthened, read Marriage Trust Builders.   It will give help and guidance for growing the trust in your marriage.   Don’t settle for questionable trust in the most important relationship of marriage.  Rather, commit to resolving any trust questions and concerns by getting the help you need from a Biblical Counselor or Minister.  You are worth it.  Your marriage is worth it.  Your lifetime of being a married couple is worth it.